Mom Says…

How many times have you overheard that phrase? “Mom (Dad) says….”

Kids are having a playdate, talking with a sibling or chatting at school/daycare and they want to share a fact or truth and it starts with “Mom says….”

“Mom says that I have a great imagination.”

“Dad says that there are 5280 feet in a mile.”

“Mom says that you have to share the last cookie with me.”

“Dad says that Luke Skywalker and Princess Leia are brother and sister.”

As parents, we are often the primary source of information for our children. Our word is taken as truth and fact (at least for the first 8-10 years of their life). What do we choose to do with this power?

I love it when my kids ask me questions. They are trying to wrap their brains around all the things that they are learning and seeing and they often come with me to help put the pieces together.  I have two approaches to their questions. I love having the answers (4×5 is and always will be 20; the capital of the US is Washington D.C.) and I love teaching them that I need to learn answers myself. When asked what the tallest building in the world is we can go to the internet and learn together. (Burj Khalifa in Dubai is 2,717 feet tall according to Wikipedia)

I also love the opportunity to speak truth into my children’s lives about more relational and self-awareness concepts. I love looking for opportunities to observe a positive trait in my children and verbalize that to them. I watch for chances to build them up and create a language for them about themselves. This does not mean creating a blown-up or egotistical view of themselves. I don’t want them to say “Mom says that I am the best baseball player in the whole world!”, but I would love to hear, “Mom says that I have a really great swing.” I don’t want to hear, “Mom says this is the best drawing ever!” But I would love to hear, “Mom says that she really likes how I practiced my shading.”

We are our children’s first responders. We hear the questions and observe the behaviors. Listen to what what you are saying to them and how it is being processed and re-verbalized.

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